Weekly Opinion Editorial
GOVERNMENT CAN’T SAVE MARRIAGE!
by Steve Fair
In
1998, OU and OSU economists produced a report on a number of factors that needed
improvement if Oklahoma were to become more prosperous. Passage of right-to-work, lower workers comp
rates, and tort reform topped the economic factors, but chief among the social
issues was lowering the rates of divorce, out-of-wedlock births and child
abuse. Oklahoma has a high rate of divorce; 13.5% of Oklahomans have been
divorced. This is the highest rate in
the 5 state region. In comparison, only
10.8% of Texans have been divorced.
Former
Governor Frank Keating persuaded the legislature to establish a
government/private sector partnership entitled the Oklahoma Marriage Initiative
to work at lowing the state’s high divorce rate. More than 80% of the funding for the marriage
initiative was to come from the state's pool of federal welfare funds-
Temporary Assistance for Needy Families. Keating’s stated goal was to reduce
the rate of divorce in Oklahoma by one third over the next decade. Keating believed that counseling, training, and
mentoring young families would not only help that family directly, but ultimately
also save the state money.
It is a well-known fact that unstable families
and divorce cost taxpayers. According to
a 2008 Institute for American Values study, increasing family stability by even
1 percent can result in $43 million of savings for Oklahoma state government.
The OMI long ago abandoned the goal of
reducing the divorce rate by a third in a decade. Since the OMI was established Oklahoma’s
divorce rate has increased from 11.6% to 13.5%.
Oklahoma’s increase in the rate of divorce has mirrored the country. Most
conservative states have higher rates of divorce than liberal states because
most Red states are more religious and young people are taught to marry and not
just live together. "In Oklahoma our divorce rate is high, that's the
truth,"
said Marriage Initiative Director Kendy Cox, "here in Oklahoma we believe in the institution of marriage. We
chose to get married; we just don't know how to navigate our marriages."
Since its inception, the OMI has trained
over 4,000 volunteers, touching over 400,000 Oklahomans with its training and
education. It continues to have strong
support in the state legislature. Former
Speaker of the House T.W. Shannon authored a bill that used some of the
discretionary federal welfare monies to pay for public-service announcements
promoting the benefits of marriage.
Those PSAs started running earlier this year. Moving forward, one of the
Oklahoma Marriage Initiative’s new endeavors is to help couples who are already
in crisis, rather than solely focusing on prevention. “We have been so focused on prevention throughout the years, that we
have not thought enough about the specific needs of couples in crisis,” Cox
said. It is clear the OMI has not been
able to reduce the divorce rate, so can government save marriages? Is it the government’s job to save marriages?
The short answer is no on both counts! Government didn’t institute marriage- God
did. Marriage is a covenant between one
man and one woman. According to Andreas
Kostenberger, that means a couple must understand and commit themselves to five
things in their marriage: (1) The permanence of marriage, (2) the sacredness of marriage, (3) the intimacy of marriage, (4) the mutuality of marriage, and (5) the exclusiveness of marriage. “A
covenant marriage is a sacred bond between a man and a woman, instituted by and
publically entered into before God,” Kostenberger says.
Economically it makes sense for government
to try and keep families intact and stable, but no seminar or counseling
session will produce the needed result of an exchanged life. That can only come from a regenerated heart.
The federal government has been at war
against biblical marriage for years.
From tax penalties for married couples to the recent recognition of
same-sex marriage, it is abundantly clear the feds could care less about
traditional marriage. Government, at any
level, can’t save marriages with secular solutions for a divine institution.